The G-spot has been at the forefront of sex-talk since the early 80s, when it was the focal point of its´ name-sake book written by Lada and colleagues. However, the term was first coined in the 1950s and was named after Dr Ernest Grafenberg, who initially discovered the highly sensitive area.
One of the most mysterious erogenous zones in the female body, the G-spot is supposed to help you achieve a particular kind of orgasm. However, the debate about whether or not it actually exists has been going on for some time now. Indeed, the trend seems to be that one research study will claim to have verified its´ non-existence, closely followed by a response that says it does.
Hoag and colleagues (2017) concluded that ´´the ´G-spot´, in its current description, does not exist as a discrete anatomic entity upon macroscopic dissection of the urethra or vaginal wall.´´ In other words, they couldn´t find it either.
This might seem funny, but researchers have actually voiced concerns that the ongoing debate may be harmful to the psychological health of women. Indeed, many women end up feeling inadequate if they are unable to find theirs, leaving them thinking that they are missing out on orgasms that every other woman is able to enjoy. Even more troubling is the birth of G-spot augmentation surgery which claim to help women achieve better orgasms. The most common questions are where is the g-spot & how to find the g-spot, this is where we are going to try and help.
Where is the G-Spot?
Some have suggested that the G-spot is the origin of the clitoral nerve fibres on the anterior wall of a woman´s vagina. This sensitive spot can be stimulated to produce intense orgasms – much like regular stimulation of the clitoris.
How to find the G-Spot?
If you pop in a finger and make a ´come hither´ gesture, you should hit the spot. If you put pressure on the front of your vagina wall, you should be able to feel it – try to feel around, maybe one to two inches inside your vagina. Once you have found it, you can help your partner track it down too so they know where to find it. For this one, lying flat on your stomach will help – and be sure to tell them to keep their palm facing down.
Some sex toys are also designed specifically to target the zone, so if you can´t find it the old fashioned way you might want to invest in a G-spot stimulator. The curved shape of these toys make the spot easier to reach and the pressure easier sustain.
If you can´t find it straight away, don´t panic! The exact location is different for everyone.
What are the best sex positions to stimulate your G-spot?
Doggy style is usually a winner for this since the angle provides the perfect road in. A rear entry whilst lying flat on your stomach seems to encourage more intense orgasms, due to a sandwich effect which provides pressure from both sides.
What if I still can´t find it?
It´s a known fact that every single body is different from the next in some minor way or other, and this is no different when it comes to female sex organs. You might have a G-spot but not necessarily feel pleasure from it. Don´t let this stress you out though, because it simply means that you will find more pleasure elsewhere – in other erogenous zones.
A complicated affair
Sexuality is more complicated that scientists like to accept. They like hard and fast facts, theories you can prove with evidence. However, when it comes to sexuality they seem to think that if there is no anatomical evidence for a G-spot, that it cannot possibly exist. This leads to misconceptions and confusion for everyone – since we usually believe what science tells us, right?
Scientists can try to explain the anatomy of the female body, but they cannot necessarily explain why an orgasm might be more intense than others. In fact, we don´t need a scientist to tell us what should feel good or why something feels good. We are our bodies, and nobody knows your own bodies better than us.
It´s time to stop listening to the myths and debates, and instead focus on figuring out how you can create mind-blowing orgasms without scientific approval. The lack of consensus can drive us wild. We can read as many studies as we want, what it all comes down to is what feels good to you. And it doesn´t get much more subjective than the female orgasm.
Regardless of the evidence for and against, what matters is that all women can achieve orgasm and this can be through vaginal or clitoral stimulation. What matters is that you figure out what works for you and learn to love the body you have by experimenting with what gives you the ultimate pleasure.